We are our own worst enemy

By: Debra Brent

One of my biggest hopes and wishes in life was to have children.

Unfortunately, I'll never be able to conceive any of my own.

I thought for the longest time that this was a punishment for all of my sins and mistakes.

I felt maybe God was right in depriving me of this because I was undeserving of and would be a bad mother.

I also now wonder if this isn't the exact reason I remain stuck in these self limiting beliefs - because I'm afraid of failing not only myself, but my inner child.

How can I reparent myself if I feel I'd be a bad parent? How can I take on that responsibility if I have such a fear of failure? How could I be a good mother to another if I don't even trust myself?

It all boils down to what my Emotional Coach calls Self-Worth Anxiety.

And a large component within that Self-Worth Anxiety is a lack of Self-Love.

The more I stay the same, the worse the depression, anxiety and self limiting beliefs become.

As one of my favorite artists states:

"If you want love, you gunna have to learn how to change."

~ NF

Because love is a verb. If I want to learn love, I have to "do". It's not a feeling. It's not going to just magically appear one day and wave magic fairy dust all around and I'll be all better.

If I want to find self love, I first have to learn self care:

• Maintaining a routine
• Taking my meds
• Eating healthy
• Studying my bible
• Attending all of my groups
• Meditating
• Journaling
• Turning to healthy coping mechanisms
• A regular sleep routine
• Exercise

Cause the thing is, the more my inner child sees I am taking care of her, the more she will begin to trust me. And the more she begins to trust me, the more she will begin to feel safe.

And through these actions, she will once again begin to also feel loved.

It's not going to be easy. Yet as another of my favorite artists states,

"Nothing good comes easy."

~ Ollie

But anything that's worth it to you, will also be worth the effort it takes to get there.

And as my favorite Coach always says, 

"If you want change, you gotta be the change."

~ BeatAnxiety.Me

Often times, we are our own worst enemy; and the only person who can save us from our self

is in fact

OUR SELF!!

Sending you love, huggzz and prayers,

Debra